Reasons to Accept Your Gloomy Self
I’m sure many great philosophers contributed their efforts to the question of happiness and personal fulfillment. However, the quote that always helps me get through the day is not by Socrates or Immanuel Kant, but by Anne Hathaway instead, “You’re only human. You don’t have to have it together every minute of every day.” If I don’t have to force myself to be cheery all the time and present this front to people, I can face my genuine emotions and better get in touch with who I am. This can be supremely liberating. Here are the reasons you should let yourself mope if you feel like it!
- Be honest with yourself.
When people ask you about how your day is going, they usually don’t really want to hear the answer. Asking questions like this is just a polite thing to do. However, when you take time to evaluate your real feelings and consider what your mood is, try to be supremely honest. Save the fake jolly answer for the people who don’t have a stake in your mental well-being.
- Stop comparing yourself to others.
How many times have you looked at the smiley people around you and asked yourself how they can be so positive all the time? Now, think back to the times you’ve put on a happy facade. Isn’t it possible that they are stressed out, or depressed, or worrying inside just like you are? Don’t compare yourself to other people. You have no idea what is actually going on inside their heads.
- Being happy is exhausting
Think back about the very best days of your life. Most probably, you experienced such overwhelming emotions that in the end of the day you just crashed from fatigue. Now, imagine that every single day is like that. How long would you last before inevitable burn out? It’s normal and even beneficial for you to be calm, sad, or mildly annoyed on some days. You should be allowed to have a diverse emotional life.
- Striving to think positively should not include punishing yourself for bad days
I’m just like any other person. I read self-help books and try to bring more positive vibes into my life. I firmly believe that the way we treat life affects the opportunities we get. But how can we truly enjoy good times if we don’t know what bad times are like? Yes, this is one of the oldest arguments in the book, but that doesn’t make it any less true. There’s no harm in being appreciative when happy things happen.
Not everyone’s life is the same. Your own life is not the same all the time. This is why it is good to realize how great the things and experiences, which you sometimes have, are. Don’t dwell on this thought too much, but keep it for the times when you just don’t feel like acting happy.